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Decide It’s Your Turn with Christina Lecuyer
I made a decision to join a Mastermind and I gulped when I invested a good chunk of change to invest in myself. I know when I invest in myself that is the law of the lid. You can only go past the level of where your lid will let you go. That’s one of John C. Maxwell’s principles in The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. I knew in my gut I needed to pull the trigger on joining this Mastermind in California. I was a little bit nerve-wracked to get outside my comfort zone, jump on a plane and fly out to a place that I have no idea who any of these people are. I’ve been a full-time entrepreneur for several years, and I can honestly say in my heart of hearts, this has been the best return on investment and we’re basically halfway through the Mastermind. Events change lives. There was one human being that I met at this event that I am so honored to have on the podcast. She has changed my life.
She called me out on a BS story that I was telling myself and I have to say, I am forever grateful. You guys are in for a gift. Take some notes. I want to introduce you to the roommate that I had out in California. Christina Lecuyer is a professional athlete. She’s a three-time reality television competitor. She’s a golf hosting specialist, a life coach, speaker and Founder of Women with C.L.AS.S. Mastermind as well as an event that I decided to sponsor because I believe in it so wholeheartedly. The name of the event is, Decide It’s Your Turn. It’s May 16th to the 18th. Let me just give you a little bit more of a background on this Christina. She’s a former professional golfer and host that has raised millions of dollars for charity and used her skills as a human connection specialist, to facilitate business relationships via the golf course. She networks and connects like a boss. Her clients include Forbes list CEOs, Wall Street Executives and numerous global charities.
My guest is from Texas and you are in for an extreme treat. I met her at the Mastermind that I was a part of. Her heart for people in connecting I don’t know if I’ve ever experienced this in a human being before. She has such a beautiful soul. I am so honored and blessed to introduce you to my guest, Christina Lecuyer. She is a professional athlete. Three-time reality television competitor, golf hosting specialist, life coach, speaker and founder of Women with Women with C.L.AS.S. Mastermind as well as the event that I am super pumped to be, Decide It’s Your Turn. What’s so neat about her is she’s such a well-rounded human being. She’s a former professional golfer and host. Christina’s helped raise millions of dollars for charities and used her skills as a human connection specialist to facilitate business relationships via the golf course. Her clients include Forbes lists CEO’s, Wall Street Executives and numerous global charities. She knows how to connect like a boss. Christina, thank you so much for being a part of this.
I’m so thankful that the universe put you in my life. I cannot tell you what a blessing it has been to connect with you, Amy and Jasna. We are fast foundations, family for life and I’m so grateful to be on your podcast. I adore you.
A lot of times when I connect with women, I connect with women, but these group of three women that we were roomies for the Mastermind, we got up close and personal.
We did. We had no idea what we got ourselves into, two rooms for four women, two bathrooms and all of us. It’s not like we’re eighteen-years-old. We can all afford our own hotel rooms and do our own things and we all got very uncomfortable, which made us amazingly good friends. I would never take that back for a second and we’re doing the exact same thing again by choice.
I’m so looking forward to it and some people that you connect with on another level and I’m honored to have you with my circle. I think it’s fascinating. I was talking with Jasna about this on one of the podcast. We were just talking about the shift, the pivot and I am so intrigued by that. I want to hear what happened to you when you were making a ton of money. You were in your sweet spot as far as your gifting of being amazing at golf, connecting with guys and getting the job done. What prompted you to completely want to shift out of that, start your own brand, start your Mastermind and start what your heart was calling for?By not taking action, you're not going to get anywhere closer to where you want to be. Click To Tweet
I’ve shifted a few times in life. This last shift, even though it was as scary as the first ones, I had done it before so maybe it wasn’t that scary. Originally, I shifted when I was about eighteen-years-old into playing golf. I had never played golf until I was eighteen. At 21, I got a college scholarship and that’s how I got to Arkansas. I’m based in Arkansas. My event is in Texas. I shifted when I was eighteen. I had no idea that I was going to play golf. I came to college. I did the whole college pro golf thing for probably about six years. I shifted from playing professional golf full-time to hosting corporate and charity golf events, raising the money, playing with the executives, doing all that. That was a big shift. I shifted from playing to hosting, which no one had ever done before and treated it as a full-time job. I shifted from doing that full-time to then working more so with women.
Self-development had come into my life years ago. I was playing professional golf, hosting these events was a huge blessing to me. Before that, I tied all of my worth and who I was as a human to what I did, how I looked, how much money I was making and all of the things that will never get you the happiness. You can check all the boxes but they don’t equal happiness. Leaving golf, which for me was purely trying to chase something that I thought was going to make me happy and didn’t, to connecting with men on the golf course, making the connection with them. That was what I was good at. The golf was just the platform I did it on. Changing that and knowing that women were looking up to me how I was able to be confident, how I was able to hang in a man’s world, how I was able to truly like and love what I was doing. They wanted to know how to do that.
That was when I finally had this shift on my heart that I was becoming so much more comfortable with myself. I was able to be more comfortable around women for a long time and life. I believed women were catty. Women were mean. Women were out to get me for certain reasons, but what I have come to realize is I didn’t like me. I was uncomfortable with me and I projected that on other women, so I know that I’m okay, I’m completely comfortable with other women. I want other women to be loved, heard, seen, all of the stuff, feels so comfortable and so confident in them that I am on a journey to connect with other women, to make them feel as comfortable. Connected and badass as they want to be.
Even you know Lady Boss Empire being a faith-based empowerment platform and resource center for women. When you can connect women, have us link arms together as a tribe and a community, that’s rough. I feel so many women need permission to lead and to feel like it’s okay to step into their zone of genius. With you, when you are feeling that calling to help women, how did you shift out of the professional golf scene? That would be a hard thing to shift out of.
It was extremely hard because I believe for such a long time that I was golf. Christina was golf and if she didn’t do anything besides golf, who was she? Did I have the knowledge base to be able to shift into anything else? Absolutely I did. That was a lie that I told myself. That’s one of the cool things about what I get to do. I get to talk to my clients and talk to the people that are in my tribe that, “Just because you did something for a long time it doesn’t mean that that’s what you have to do forever.” That is a very scary place sometimes to be associated so heavily with one thing yet knowing in your soul and listening to your higher power and saying, “Just because you did this for a long time doesn’t mean you have to do it forever. There’s no forever is in this. You can shift whenever that calling comes upon you.”
For me, I truly had to trust myself to start shifting out of the golf world, which I’m not ever completely going out of the golf world, but I now know. I have used that as a tool to get so much experience, so much knowledge, so much out of that, that I’m able to use what I’ve learned on the golf course to take it off the golf course. I’m doing the same thing. I’m connecting with human beings on the highest level and encouraging them to be their best, most authentic selves. I’m no longer using the golf course as a platform.
When you made that shift, it wasn’t, I have to completely make the shift over here and I can never go back to that thing that maybe there are components of it that are still bring you joy. Feeling like you don’t have to throw out the baby with the bath water, that you still be in your zone of genius there, but saying, “There’s this higher calling that I want to work these synergistically with each other so that I feel fulfilled. Listening to that still small voice and be in your zone of genius.” That’s awesome.
I believe that that’s true. A lot of people sometimes believe that they have to give up one completely to do the other. I also think too, that if you’re holding onto the one thing because it’s safe, you’re not able to go fully into the other one where you should be. That is sometimes a battle that you’ve got to figure out what you’re doing it for. I still find a ton of joy with the events that I do that bring me my highest amount of joy, but I also know I catch myself. If I have a lot of anxiety or not wanting to do an event built up, but I’m doing out of a scarcity mindset, I think that that’s a difference. You have to be able to literally tune into yourself and realize, “Am I doing this because it absolutely brings me joy and I know I need to be doing it? Am I doing this for a scarcity reason and feeling I can’t fully dive into the other one because I should be doing this thing just in case that other one doesn’t work out?” People need to be able to tune into that because it’s a very important thing.
There is so much wisdom there. I want to go into this piece. I think a lot of people see themselves in that. What would be one, two or even three questions that when you’re getting super still, you should ask yourself to be very self-aware on, is this thing over here serving me and does it bring me joy? Should I completely shift over here? How do you ask yourself those key questions to make sure that you’re thinking clearly and you’re not letting fear overtake you or I should or this person’s going to be upset with me if I don’t do this or this is where the money comes from? This will be safe. What key questions should you ask yourself at that point?
The first thing that automatically came to my mind right there is, would you be doing it if it was 100% free? Would I go and be doing what I’m doing if I wasn’t paid for it? Absolutely. The answer is yes. Those certain events in the golf industry that I have probably been holding onto a little too long. Would I be doing them over doing what I’m doing now? The answer is absolutely no. I would much rather be doing what I’m doing now, so why would I choose those other things? Probably because that’s what I’ve always done. That brings guaranteed income. I know it’s easy. There are certain things like that. The scary stuff I think a lot of us if it just purely scares you and it makes you feel uncomfortable, that’s one thing. If it scares you and yet there’s some little aspect of joy about the what if, I would definitely try to look into that a little bit more. Usually, the things that scare you are exactly what you need to be doing. If you’re doing something that’s like “Ho-hum,” don’t even have to think about, chances are you’ve probably been doing it a little too long. You need to find another thing that brings up those butterflies again.The most successful people in the world show up and do the little things every single solitary day. Click To Tweet
I think that resonates with so many people, myself included. With that though, let’s say there’s that person that says, “At the end of the day, Christina, I’ve got to pay my bills. I have to make sure that I’m not putting my family in jeopardy in order to pursue this passion.” What is that happy medium and how can I still be pursuing what I’m passionate about but yet still pay my bills?
I love it and I hear this quite often. What action are you taking, to make sure that you can be doing what you want to do on a daily basis? I gave a speech and I was talking about, if it brings you joy, it doesn’t always bring you income. “I enjoy doing this, but there’s no income associated or I want to do this so badly, but I don’t know how to get to the end result.” Most of us don’t know how to get to the end result, but you have to take some action every single day and slowly but surely the universe God will show you how to get there. By you not taking action, you’re not going to get anywhere close to that. The analogy I used at this event that I was speaking at was, if you love baking cupcakes but you have no idea how you’re going to own the bakery, how you’re going to come up with unique recipes, how you’re going to get the social media following, how you’re going to monetize it, that’s all great. Are you baking the cupcakes every single day when you get home from work? Are you googling the best recipes? Are you creating the next whatever it is in the cupcake industry? Are you looking for places to go and get your cupcakes out?
Are you creating social media following every single day? What can you do every single day that is going to get you closer to being able to do that 50% of the time? When I started doing what I’m doing, it was 95% golf, 5% this. I’m very fortunate that it’s 85% the women, the Masterminds, all that, but I still do 15% of the golf. Those 15% that I do, I truly love them, but I’ll be honest, it was probably 35% and there was a few of them that I needed to do because that gave me the income to be putting on this live event and spending $100,000 that I may not have had, to do that if I wasn’t doing the golf events. Sometimes you have to do the things that are not necessarily a 100% want to be doing, but you also be having to take action to get where you want to do it. I went from 90% to 75% to probably 35% and I’m only doing seven to eight events, which is probably about 15% of what I used to do full-time. I’m still able to use the money from this side in order to invest in this side. Sometimes you just have to take action. It’s never going to happen overnight.
What I heard from that is get crystal clear on your vision. That’ll light up a fire inside of you that, “This is why I’m going towards this.” Also those habits every single day, making sure that you’re putting that forward. Even if you can’t do all-out massive action, which if you’ve got a family, you’ve got kids, you’ve got a job, you might not be able to go out with all-out massive action. At least make it a habit on a daily basis that you can do at least a little something so that you can slowly shift over and not compromising those store hours. Those are non-negotiables for you.
You have to take consistent action. You may not be able to tell the difference that you’re making in a month, in three months. You look back in a year, you will 100% see where you’ve come in a year if you’re consistently showing up and taking small amounts of action. It is like night and day. It’s like if you’re trying to lose ten pounds. You’re not going to lose the ten pounds in a week, but if you show up and take consistent action for six months, you probably will. You’ll look back and you’ll be like, “Every small little change I made, every glass of water I drank, every 30 minutes at the gym, every small choice that I made, it adds up over time.” Most of us want immediate gratification. I’ll tell you, the most successful people in the world, they show up and they do the little things every single solitary day. It’s boring people, but it works.
I will tell you in my journey, one of the things that have sped up my actual results is when I make a decision. A lot of times, I’m looking back at my whole entrepreneurial journey. I have made some of my biggest game changer type of decisions at an event. That’s why I am so lit up about your event. I can’t even get over. I’m so obsessed with the name, Decide It’s Your Turn. For every boss that is reading this I don’t care if you’re getting your hair done. Whatever you’re doing, I want you to read this. All you need is to decide that it’s your turn. Give yourself permission. You can listen to all the podcast, you can read all the books, you can do all the things, but until you make that decision, most of the time you don’t make that decision when you are in the same environment, doing the same thing over and over with the same type of people. You’re in that daily grind, you sometimes can’t think clearly, you think you’re living life by a design, but you’re living life by default and keeping your head above water.
When you can clear your head, fly out to a destination and get around like-minded people where iron sharpens iron. They are where you want to be, they give you the tools and the action steps to get you to where you want to go, that’s where I believe the magic happens. That’s what happened to me at the Mastermind when I met you. That’s why you are so near and dear to my heart. I will share this down the line. I don’t even know if I could. Our moment in the elevator where I broke down, and I started bawling. There were some major shifts I needed to make in my life, but if I hadn’t got myself in the room, it would be very unlikely that I would’ve made those draw the line in the sand type of decision. I want to talk about why you decided to do this event, where it’s going and what it’s all about?
Everything that you said, I wanted to be like, “Hallelujah, amen,” all of the above. I truly believe that this is a calling on my soul in order to do this. I have seen the women in this seat for so long. I have known in my soul that this is my calling to do. I had such peace with it when I decided to do this. The entire journey I will tell you is the hardest journey you’ll ever take, but it’s so worth it. Every time I think about, “I’m done” there’s zero chance that I’m done. I cannot walk away from this because I know for a fact that it matters. It changed my life when I started surrounding myself with unbelievable, epic humans who vibrated at the highest level, who all came together in one room, in one Mastermind, in one live event, in one coaching session. I’m telling you, you can hang around with the same people. You can say that there’s no one in your community. You can do all those things, but I am here to tell you there are like-minded people.
There are people that will set you on fire and hold you accountable to listening to your God-given passion, your God-given purpose on this planet. We all have that purpose and I want you to get off your phone. I want you to get out of doing the same old thing that you do every single day and I want you to take action for your life. I hate to tell you, but time is running out. I’m getting older each day and I know that. Sometimes I look back and I’m like, “I cannot believe I didn’t realize that you have to go to live events, you have to go to Masterminds, you have to hire coaches, you have to do this, you have to take action.” Sometimes it’s scary. Leaving your family, for all you moms out there finding childcare, leaving the mom guilt. I have to buy a flight. I never even thought in my life because I always traveled with golf, but there were women who came to our Mastermind who had never taken a trip by themselves.
I used to travel all the time and I can book my flight like a boss. I’ve got all of this under control, but I was still nervous to go to my first live event because I never felt like I was smart enough. I didn’t feel like I had all my things together. I didn’t feel like I knew enough. I shouldn’t have been in that room, but I’m telling you, I deserve to be in that room. You deserve to be in that room and I never want you to doubt. If it is a calling on your soul to get in the rooms, to go to Masterminds, to hire coaches, to be around like-minded people. You need to listen to that, and by every minute that you don’t listen to that, you are harming yourself. I promise you there was probably about a five year span when I first dove into self-development that I always wanted to do these things and when I finally took action, it was a game changer. I say it all the time to my clients.True happiness is knowing that you are enough just being yourself. Click To Tweet
I say, “Once you know, you know,” because it’s almost like you drank this Kool-Aid and you’re like, “These humans exist. I need to be around them 24/7.” The fact that you and I are partners we are literally partners for life. We are accountability partners in the fact that I know that you’ve got my back and I’ve got yours. I know what you’ve accomplished in business, so I want to be around you. I know what you’ve accomplished in life, I know your faith, I know your drive, your passion and your goals. I want to be around that because I don’t ever want to sit. I say my worst week would be to have to sit around, gossip, drink wine, watch reality shows and feel bad about myself eating bonbons. I do not want to do any of those things. I want to go and surround myself, take off my makeup and lay on the floor in a two-bedroom condo with four girls at midnight. I want to talk about the best things in our lives, all of our goals, dreams and ambitions. Where we want to go, who we want to impact and how we can be a higher version of ourselves, that lights me on fire. I want every single person to experience that.
Honestly, the entrepreneurial journey can be so extremely isolating, and you keep doing the same things over and over and expect different results. That is the definition of insanity. You have to get yourself into those rooms. There are two options. You can pick your higher-self or your lower-self. Your lower-self is going to try to tell you, you don’t have the funds to get there. You’re going to feel uncomfortable. All these doubts that start to rent space in your head, unless you say, “Not now, Satan.” I’m going to up level and I’m going to become the boss of my own life. I owe it to myself. God has given me a gift and I need to pay that forward.
I need to show up as the highest version, the best self that I can be because that’s going to give so many other people permission in the process and knowing that you’re not the only unicorn out there. When I met you, I met Jasna, I met Amy, I met so many incredible human beings. I’ve met some phenomenal entrepreneurs, but this is another level of people. When I just thought to myself, “I’ve been dreaming small,” you know you’re in the right room. If you feel you were the smartest person in the room, get out of that room. I’m getting off on a random tangent. I was in the room. I went to a bar and there was a pregnant lady. There was a girl that had an injury, then there was another girl that didn’t know what she was doing.
I felt so amazing and I caught it. I was like, “Stef, slow your roll,” but the day before, I went to a yoga sculpt class and I was sucking air. I was drenched in sweat. Did I feel so amazing over there? No, but did I get way better results over there? Yes. When you can be able to think to yourself, “I don’t want to be in the status quo the rest of my life. I know that there is something out there that is more. I know that I’m being called to be more and to do more.” That’s why you need to go to an event. That’s all there is to it.
It’s May 16th to the 18th in Austin and share any other things of the amazing people that are going to be speaking there and we can keep rolling. I had to share this because honestly, if you’re reading and you’re like, “Something needs to change.” This is your opportunity. You have the opportunity to turn this podcast off and say, justify why you can’t go or you can turn this podcast off and say, “I’m going to book my flight because I know that I owe it to myself to change my life.”
You know you’ve done this, you’ve been there, you’ve booked those flights the minute you turned off a podcast. I’ve done the exact same thing and I’m telling you, it’s life changing. This event is going to be incredible. Austin is the number one city in the country to go for a Bachelorette party in a woman’s weekend. I was just down there. Everything is walkable. It’s a beautiful time to be in Austin. It’s warm, it’s booming, it’s gorgeous. Our speakers are incredible. We have ten speakers coming in from around the country, over a million followers between all of us. We have everyone from the fitness industry mindset. We have celebrity trainers guiding us through morning workouts. I have a clinical psychologist who works with my Mastermind. She is next level, Dr. Fern Kazlow. She’s incredible. We have Angie Lee, who is the marketing guru of the country. We have Girl Confident, Rachel Luna who literally speaks her mind. Do you think I speak my mind? That girl has a whole next level. She’s a Christian as well, which I love. I’m so thankful for that.
Two of my greatest girlfriends, Erin Hohnbaum. Erin is incredible. She’s a traditional brick and mortar business. She started her clothing company out of her closet and she has a franchise across the southern United States. Absolute badass when it comes to business, but a mindset of a badass as well. Lindsey Schwartz, she has women’s events all over. She’s doing one in Dominican Republic, New Mexico, Phoenix. Doc Jen Fit, who’s been in the fitness industry for such a long time. Jen is one of the greatest humans to me. I could never repay her for the blessing that she’s been in my life. There are incredible speakers. I am very fortunate to say that we have unbelievable sponsors like Lady Boss Empire. We have swag bags that are off the hook. I was in the golf industry, which is so fun. My sponsor TaylorMade Golf is sending all of us logoed golf balls. I have all sorts of fun snacks. Kize Bars, Nutpods, Five Minute Journals, jewelry companies are sponsoring it. I think our swag bags might be worth more than the ticket itself.
Do yourself a favor. Come join us. It’s going to be incredible and your life is going to change if you Decide It’s Your Turn. Thank you, Christina, for standing and rising up. Events are not for the faint of heart. You are stepping up and you are putting it on because you’re feeling prompted. I did that for my book launch. I didn’t know what I was doing and I hustled. It was not easy, but it is just such a beautiful journey, so excited about that. We’re going to switch gears a little bit and talk more about your entrepreneurial journey, where you come from, where you’re going. I want to know, what has been your biggest rock bottom moments being an entrepreneur, how did you overcome it and what was your biggest takeaway?
I’ve had two what I would consider my rock bottoms in life. The first one was when I was playing golf. It wasn’t necessarily in my entrepreneurial journey. It was the golf journey where I was so tied. My worth came from what I did. You can link this back to the entrepreneurial journey as well. Whatever industry that you’re in, the entrepreneurial journey, if your highs and lows come from the number of people that are in your business, the amount of income in your business. All of the things that you think are going to be that next level, when I get here, when I get this car, when I hit this limit, when I get this promotion. If there’s ever a “when if” to your happiness, I hate to tell you, but that is not working in life. It never will work. The happiness has to come, it has to come from knowing that you are worthy and you are 100% enough just being yourself. That does not mean that you’re not striving for greatness, but that means that who you are is enough and everything that you accomplish is gravy is what I say. That was my first one was when I finally learned that my happiness, getting all of the golf stuff and being all of the golf things. Even if I would have won on tour, been the thing and had all the sponsors, made all the money and stuff. That was never going to get me true happiness. True happiness is knowing that you are enough being yourself. I think in the entrepreneurial journey, I’ve always been a little entrepreneur my entire life.
I remember hunting golf balls on my dad’s course and selling them back to him for $0.50 when I was a kid. I’ve always been an entrepreneur. I had a partner when we first started, I can tell you with all honesty and complete adoration for this woman, I believe that that woman was a huge blessing in my life. Even though she pulled out, it was very difficult two, three days of my life, I honestly believe that the Lord put her in my life so I would go ahead and do this event. I know I wouldn’t have believed that I could have done it without her, but when she said she was pulling out, I knew that I had to go and do this myself. That was definitely a hard part of the journey. Those three days there were very difficult and this whole journey has been crazy. Something that you said to me, which was so amazing, you’re like, “No, Satan, not now.” It’s so true. We all are hit by those things. Even on a daily basis. It doesn’t matter if it’s monumental. Sometimes there are things that just hit us, feel we are set back and we shouldn’t be doing what we’re doing.Don't let the what ifs, the fears, and the thoughts of failure stop you from doing the things that set your soul on fire. Click To Tweet
Even someone in our Mastermind, I had a good conversation with them, they dove in and they said, “I just don’t feel I belong or if I’m good enough in this room.” I was like, “No you don’t.” I said, “I may not be able to help you in what you’re doing in your business, but I will make sure to help you know for a fact you are supposed to be in this room. If that is my reason for me being on this conversation with you, that’s my reason and I want you to know that you are 100% supposed to be in this room. Every single person who’s in this room is in this room for a purpose and a reason,” and I want you readers, to remember that there’s going to be times where you feel you’re an imposter. There is going to be times where you feel like, “I can’t do this. I’m not made up for this,” but you have to trust within your soul to listen to your soul’s calling, to listen to your higher power. If there’s any inkling with inside you pursuing whatever it is that you’re doing, you cannot let the what ifs, the fears and the thought of failures stop you from doing the thing that sets your soul on fire.
I have to say when you are in partnership with someone and you guys are running towards a vision, you’re running towards a mission and that person falls out or pulls out. I experienced that on another level and I was absolutely devastated. I literally screamed out to God like, “Why God did you allow this to happen?” I felt like my heart was being ripped out of my chest, but when I truly look back on that, I think, it was such a beautiful journey up until that point of that partnership. She pulled out for a reason and it was divinely guided that it was right timing for her to go in a different direction. I wish her all the best and I pray blessings over her. Also knowing that that was for a time and that was for a season and it got us to learn a lot of things about ourselves.
It got us to learn more things about life and it happens for us, not to us. When we can learn those lessons, it’s incredible. Looking back on that, would I ever want to go through that heartache again? Absolutely not. How is this all going to come together when you put it together, five, ten, fifteen year goals of where you’re going, what you’re doing, but then you look back and you’re like, “I probably wouldn’t have pushed myself to go to that next point if that person didn’t leave.” I think it humbles us and also, it helps us to hit our knees and get that much closer to God when we feel we have nothing else to hold onto. We don’t have a partner to hold onto. We don’t have anything else surrounding us to hold onto. That’s where the magic happens. When you can lean in and say, “God, it’s just you and me. I’ll let you be God. I’m going to show up, work like it depends on me and pray as it depends on you.”
It’s the surrender. I will promise you it was almost like I had forgotten that I wasn’t in control. I had forgotten that I’ve got to keep this under control and I was like, “God, this has been a bad show and I can’t do this anymore” It’s almost like a switch when I asked, I was like, “I can’t do this alone. What am I doing? I shouldn’t be doing this alone.” This comes back to the faith thing, but when things are going good sometimes people put God on the shelf or they pick God back up. If things are going bad, they put God on the shelf or they pick God back up. You need him in this whole rodeo.
When it’s good, when it’s bad, 100% we are doing this together. When you remember that and surrender that, I am literally not in control. As much as I feel I set the alarms, done the things, paid the bills, talk to this person and getting all these things done, at the end of the day, there’s going to be that one thing that switches on you and that’s a total roadblock. I had no control over that. That’s why you have to have your higher power as walking along this journey with you, with the highs and the lows because as you said, “I will work as hard as I can, but at the end of the day he is in control of everything.”
I think especially with our type of personalities, that type of lady boss that we have gotten so many amazing results in our career, yet we don’t feel we’re in control, we freak out, but literally when we get to that point of saying, “God, I don’t know what else to do, so I’m going to give it on over to you.” That’s when he’s like, “It took you a little while, but I’m going to make my magic happen.” It’s crazy to see how that works. I looked back on my career of twelve years, those moments when I’ve surrendered, when I’m at that rock bottom moment and I give it all over to him. He’s like, “I’ve just been waiting for this. I’m going to open up the doors again.” Also, it’s that place of trusting him in the highs, the lows and I love how you put that, Christina.
I’m going to tell a story about that. I’ve been saving and this little thing that’s been happening to me. I heard someone talk about something how they were giving it up to the universe. I promise you it started to happen to me probably after I went to this event. It was a Christian women’s event and I remember it when she said something. I was always looking for something and every single time I get to the point that I’m like, “I’m done. God.” My husband, I tell him all the time, he just laughs. He’s like, “Of course that was about to happen. You always have that happen.” I was like, “It happens every single time.” I’m going to tell people to look for their thing because I don’t want to spill it. I’ve been telling some of my clients and on many podcasts because I am going to tell the story there. It may not be as influential to them, but as soon as they find their thing, that always happens.
This woman was telling us a story of how she always sees this bird. She was like, “There’s no chance a bird should fly by in a certain time. Every single time, God, I can’t do this. There it is, there are birds.” That little thing has happened to me in life and it’s been this crazy thing where you have to give it up. Every single time when you’re at your, “Lord, it’s all you.” Every time you get that phone call, you get that text message. You get that person showing up in your life. You get that one thing. He gives it to you, whatever you need, but you have to be willing to give it up and you have to be willing to accept what he’s giving to you. You have to know that it’s God just providing that little carrot that you need to keep going to fulfill whatever he put in you to do.
If someone met you and said, “Christina, I want to become the boss of my own life and call the shots. What’s my first step?”
Listening to yourself and taking action to listen to yourself. Quit listening to everyone else’s opinions about what it is that you truly want to do. If you truly want to do it, I’ll buffer it for you, but I’ll say, “Eff it to fear.” You know what I want to say.
What is your definition of a boss?
Someone who’s the most authentic, someone who is truly themselves and they don’t care what anyone else has to say about it. When you’re a boss, you are authentically yourself. You show up with such love and as the best version of yourself, you can possibly be in that moment.
Any other last words of wisdom, Christina, that you want to share with our audience?
The two things that I say every single day are “Just Be.” My hashtag on Instagram, my handle is #BeChristina. The reason for that, I was #GolfChristina. My worth was tied to what I did and I was always tied to golf. I changed it to #BeChristina because every single day I want to show up and be Christina. I don’t want to be Stephanie. I don’t want to be Sarah. I don’t want to be Molly. I want to be Christina and be the person that I am put on this planet to do because I have a purpose, a reason and so do you. I would encourage you to “Just be”. I use the hashtag #JustBe and know that you are “Worthy AF.” If you want to say if that stands for Awesome Female, go ahead, but you know what it stands for in my world. What I always say is I cuss like a sailor, but God and I are tight, so it’s all good.
Christina, I know that so many of my audience are wanting to connect with you on Instagram, on your website. Give them all the handles.
All we need is BeChristina. @BeChristina, I’m on Instagram. I’m going to show up there. I love connecting with everyone on Instagram. I answer every DM. I answer every message, so check me out on Instagram. I am a little bit on Facebook, but our event is DecideItsYourTurn.com. I love you Stef. I adore you. I thank the Lord that you’re in my life. You’re such a blessing to me. All of the above.
Christina, you have been a game changer in my life. I think my most beautiful moment with you was in the elevator when I was bawling. I connected with your heart there and thank you for being you. Thank you for showing up as Christina and sharing that life with the world. You’re such a gift. That is my challenge to you guys, to be the person that God has called you to be. Don’t look to the left, don’t look to the right, keep your eyes on your own yoga mat and show up as you. That’s my number one challenge. The next thing is, you guys know my challenge always and forever is to fire your fear. It builds your faith and become the boss of your own life. God has decided it’s your turn and join us. We love you. We believe in you. God has amazing things in store for you.
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